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What if I'm one of those women who will never get married? What if I'm of those women who will never get married? What if I'm one of those women who will spend years trying to have a child?
But the society I was born into shames you if you for any of the above. Sometimes I wonder if  would end up becoming that successful aunt or friend who everyone loves yet feels sorry for because  I have no man or no children. 
No one has ever died from not been married but thousands of people have been killed by their spouse all over the world.  No one has ever died from been childless, but hundreds of children are killed by a parent and hundreds of parent(s) are killed by their child(ren). Thousands of children have been abandoned and forced to have a terrible life which in most cases leads to their children having a terrible life.
I have so many weird questions in my head, the older I get the more I get scared about one of these becoming my reality. Been born in Nigerian and growing u…
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Hi guys,
I have been so busy with work I don't have a personal life anymore. My life now works in a cycle, go to work, work out when I'm not too tired, go home, eat, pray and sleep. A lot of people complain about not having a life when they start working and it heartbreaking that this is becoming my reality.

 I was very excited when I got the job six months ago, it was exciting to work in a fun environment, however, everything is different now and I can't wait to get a new job. I won't say I hate or dislike my job, it is simply what I do for money because adults need money to survive.

Been a qualified professional in my field, I am underpaid at my current job but I was more than happy to take it at the time because I was unhappy and almost in the state of depression. I also needed to make money, I had no money of my own. I applied to several law firms offices on arrival to the county but no one wanted to hire someone with a pass grade and no FE1. Therefore been offered…


Have you ever been away from your significant other for so long that a simple compliment from the opposite sex will send tremors to part of  you body it should not ?

Well this is the story of my life right now, I've been away from zaddy for almost four months and my body is starting to crack under pressure. I've been celibate for months before but this is very different, imagine been with someone who knows what your body body wants and how to please you for two years then moving to a different county because adulting is a scam.

This guy on twitter slid into my DM last week after I a replied his comment about power because I thought it was funny and I was about to say the same thing. He followed me and I followed back because social media is about getting to know all sorts of people.
Drops a message asking where I lived a few hours after which I replied. Fortunately and unfortunately I was in London visiting family for two nights and he lived in London. He was nice telling me t…


Hi everyone,

So there is this gist going around work about a girl I started working with, basically saying she is a cheerful giver and had sex with at least three different guys since we started.
We have only been at the company for six weeks , two of the six weeks we spent training and barely interacting with any of the people on the floor.
The entire floor has been gossiping about it, calling her loose and easy, one of the black girls over heard one of the team leads talking about it and she felt bad, so she told one of the black girls I'm friends with at work about not knowing whether or not to tell her.

I noticed the girl was a bit too close for comfort with some of the guys in the office but I felt I wasn't minding my business, so i just ignored. I'm not close to her so I really cannot say anything to her, I went to uni with her sister but we were not friend and we've only had one or two conversations.

I feel really sorry for her because she has been away and is y…


Hi guys,
So i started my new job last Tuesday and it has been great. Got the job a few weeks ago but the start date was weeks after the job offer.
I really can't say much about my job description or what I do, due to privacy requirement of the company I work for I had to sign a lot of non disclosure agreement, even during the interview.

The job allow a lot of opportunity to grow with the company, therefore there are lots of opportunity to move up the ladder.
So far I've been on training for the last two weeks, a lot of information overload, having to learn company policies to use when working, how and when to apply them .
There is also a huge staff support, people help each other with problems and work related issues, there are team leader to help , there is also a group huddle at the end of each day to discuss daily progress.

I also had to adapt to a weird bus schedule with had a me walking almost an hour each day, but i figured it out yesterday.

I can also wear …


Hi guys,
I finally got a job, after eight weeks of trying and over a hundred online applications.
I spent a lot of time applying for legal jobs and kept getting turned down, this affected my morale, after a while, I gave up on finding a legal job and switched to finding an entry level job that will put money in my account and also keep me busy.

I got an email from a company scheduling a phone interview which went well until I was turned down at the third stage. This really got to me as they made me feel I was going to get the job, I had my hopes up and stopped searching for other jobs.

After I got the rejection email, I picked myself up and went to turn up at a wedding, I ended up spending the night beside an acquaintance from college who told me about the company where he works and also informed me that they are always recruiting. He sent me the links on Monday and I got a call on Tuesday asking me to come in for an interview on Thursday of the next week, which was thre…


It's four am and I am having issues sleeping, I've been like this for the last seven day and its affecting me mentally , my mind wanders to dark corner it shouldn't. The fact that i am currently unemployed and not getting any replies from the jobs I applied for is not making it better .

I spent most of my life as a student trying to get enough qualifications before I hit thirty, which I think is starting to look like a bad idea. I have my degree's and I am hundred percent ready for the employment market but no one wants to hire me because I have no experience. I spent a few months interning during the summer but I'm guessing that's not enough.

I moved back to Dublin almost three weeks ago because this is my home, I lived here for twelve years before going back to Nigeria for law school. Stayed back for a few months after the call because my boyfriend lives there and I wasn't about to throw the entire relationship out of the window.

I decided to put NYSC on …


Everyone who knows me, knows how much I hate getting my hair done.
I went natural in 2013 but a hair stylist in Abuja convinced me to perm it, I continued doing that for a year then I went back natural in 2014.
I've been natural for over two years but maintaining it has been very stressful, so I decided to get dreads but I was too scared to give it a go. I waited until after law school and I finally grew the balls I needed to get my hair locked today 07/01/2018.
It took almost five hours of rolling, crocheting and twisting but it looks somehow similar to having dreads, my head hurts like crazy, the lady who did it trimmed a lot of my hair.
I've always been skeptical about getting my hair locked, because I didn't was it looking too short and sticking out on different ends, however that was how it came out.
Hopefully it grows faster.
I feel kinda weird, so I would stick to wigs and scarves until it looks better.